So yesterday (Tuesday) is measured by a message on my cell-phone: a voice I don't know, sounding chipper and light, and then telling me that my dear friend--a woman I'd known nearly 25 years, passed away...two months ago(!)
A friend of a friend, leaving words in a tone I can't quite comprehend.And how is it no one had (earlier)contacted me???
I am grieving the loss of the sweet, humble, lover of laughter, Casandra.A girl-woman who let far too few people into her life.A vulnerable woman who let men who did not deserve her trust, have it.
Though I do not (yet) know the details of her untimely (she turned 45 last December 29th) death, I know her young years were often filled with parties and dancing, and hugging doggies, and trying new eye-makeup out, and holding cookouts, and calling me at all hours, and recounting how much she had a crush on a particular guy.
Casandra didn't use computers,"Computers and I, we don't get along," she would say.The past few years, she seldom visited me, saying the new area in which I lived was too confusing in which to drive. Since I hate the phone, and she could not/would not use a computer, we visited, or did meet-ups, in-person. Which meant I often saw Casandra much more often than others in my life.I'd visit her for lunch, or after she got off work(she was a professional haircutter/haircolorist/hairstylist)for dinner, or tea(though she usually ordered wine). I knew her nearly 25 years, and I found her funny, and charming....and willing to "grow".In 1993, when I took her to my favorite bookstore, she admitted she seldom read. "Where should I go, Lisa? This feels like school..."
"Well, go where your interests are.You love fashion, start there..."
A few moments later, with a stack of magazines and a book on design, her face lit up.
Smiling, she said "Oh,this is fun...".
Many years later, a young man she had a crush on, Todd,shared some novels he loved, with her.And Cas became the reader I knew she'd one day be...
We had talked about poetry, about the sound of it.She had attended poetry open mics I'd hosted, many years ago.Now, she was reading poetry, and joined me at (Decatur, Georgia's) Java Monkey Cafe, to listen to poets read their own work, too.
We had grown closer, through our love of words.
RIP, Casandra.You were a sweetheart.A talent at hair-color, a giver of smiles and love, a truly kind soul.
Peace, kids.
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Wednesday, June 08, 2011
Friday, June 26, 2009
Farrah Fawcett/Michael Jackson.
Farrah Fawcett/Michael Jackson.
Gorgeous, talented, hard-fighting Farrah Fawcett lost her battle with anal cancer approximately 24 hours ago-- on June 25th, 2009. Her performances in "Extremities"(first on Broadway, and then in the film) and "The Burning Bed"(a TV-movie), where she played, respectively, a rape victim, and then a battered housewife, are amazing in their fierceness, and vulnerability. Much like the woman herself.
Farrah Fawcett, sex-symbol, and more importantly, strong woman, caring mother, excellent actress, activist for cancer-victims and their fight. She's a real angel, now.
It's difficult for me to like Michael Jackson. While there is no doubt he is "The King of Pop", his admission to encouraging very young children/prepubescent/adolescent children sleep with him makes me feel less than kind towards this obvious pedophile. Technically, he would be called a "pederast", since his penchant appeared to be for very young boys.
I considered posting the link where you can see the actual court documents detailing exactly what one child swore Jackson did to him, but have decided that since Jackson just passed, that would be in poor taste. If you want that information, just know it's there, and can easily be Googled.
I hope Jackson's "own"(the children's mother, Debbie Rowe, admitted they are NOT biologically his, many years ago) children receive the love and care they deserve. Jackson's other child--and the one purported to be his biological one-- Prince Michael II, must be kept with his siblings. I hope a member of Jackson family will come forward to care for these children.
I have a feeling the autopsy will show that his obvious anorexia(It's common for someone to adopt obsessive-compulsive behaviors, like eating-disorders, when they feel they have some other obsession(perhaps his pedophilia?) over which they feel powerless. It's an attempt to bring "order" to a chaotic mind), which was just one of the ways his body-dysmorphic-disorder manifested itself. The skin-lightening and numerous plastic surgeries on his face, are more evidence of his BDD.
I believe the "cardiac arrest" was probably brought on by either intentional abuse of prescription drugs, or an accidental over-use combined with his body being underweight, and low on potassium.
Like many people, I will be listening to The Jackson Five's "ABC", and Michael's "Thriller" today. That music recalls a gentler time, a more innocent time....a time when the name "Michael Jackson" meant only fun songs, great music to dance to, and a handsome kid who made us all feel good.
RIP, Michael.
Peace, kids.
Gorgeous, talented, hard-fighting Farrah Fawcett lost her battle with anal cancer approximately 24 hours ago-- on June 25th, 2009. Her performances in "Extremities"(first on Broadway, and then in the film) and "The Burning Bed"(a TV-movie), where she played, respectively, a rape victim, and then a battered housewife, are amazing in their fierceness, and vulnerability. Much like the woman herself.
Farrah Fawcett, sex-symbol, and more importantly, strong woman, caring mother, excellent actress, activist for cancer-victims and their fight. She's a real angel, now.
It's difficult for me to like Michael Jackson. While there is no doubt he is "The King of Pop", his admission to encouraging very young children/prepubescent/adolescent children sleep with him makes me feel less than kind towards this obvious pedophile. Technically, he would be called a "pederast", since his penchant appeared to be for very young boys.
I considered posting the link where you can see the actual court documents detailing exactly what one child swore Jackson did to him, but have decided that since Jackson just passed, that would be in poor taste. If you want that information, just know it's there, and can easily be Googled.
I hope Jackson's "own"(the children's mother, Debbie Rowe, admitted they are NOT biologically his, many years ago) children receive the love and care they deserve. Jackson's other child--and the one purported to be his biological one-- Prince Michael II, must be kept with his siblings. I hope a member of Jackson family will come forward to care for these children.
I have a feeling the autopsy will show that his obvious anorexia(It's common for someone to adopt obsessive-compulsive behaviors, like eating-disorders, when they feel they have some other obsession(perhaps his pedophilia?) over which they feel powerless. It's an attempt to bring "order" to a chaotic mind), which was just one of the ways his body-dysmorphic-disorder manifested itself. The skin-lightening and numerous plastic surgeries on his face, are more evidence of his BDD.
I believe the "cardiac arrest" was probably brought on by either intentional abuse of prescription drugs, or an accidental over-use combined with his body being underweight, and low on potassium.
Like many people, I will be listening to The Jackson Five's "ABC", and Michael's "Thriller" today. That music recalls a gentler time, a more innocent time....a time when the name "Michael Jackson" meant only fun songs, great music to dance to, and a handsome kid who made us all feel good.
RIP, Michael.
Peace, kids.
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