My husband's brother, Arthur, is someone I've known since he was just a youngster, in college. I've gotten to watch him become a serious young man, and then, a thirty-something-man with a great job who longed for a partner with whom he could share his life. I saw him search endlessly for a woman who would make him feel excited to leave work and return home for....He found that woman, Toni, approximately 3 years ago, in mid-2007, on e-harmony.After much e-mailing and many phone calls, they met up at an ice cream shop, and began dating. I met Toni that Thanksgiving, at Arthur's home, in North Carolina, and in January of 2009, they wed in Maui, Hawaii.
Toni wanted to get pregnant "soon", she told me, because she'd grown up happy, but as an "only child" and very much wanted children, a "big family", she said.
So they began making trips--very romantic trips. Italy, Puerto Rico, Charleston...in fact, several trips to a beach-house in Charleston, and viola'! Soon, she was pregnant.
Theyt were both elated to hear this news.
Now almost 36 years old, Arthur is focused and driven, just like my hubby Hansoo, but where Hansoo is quick to anger, Arthur is quick to let tears flow,and his ability to let his feelings emerge is his most endearing quality.
Of course, when it's tears of joy at my wedding, or his own, that's a great thing to witness.
Or when Arthur's lovely wife, Toni, gave birth(an induced birth, 6.5 weeks early), and lovely Morgan Catherine was their bright reward.
But the tears Arthur now sheds--the tears that we all shed now-- are over our loss of lovely Toni, just weeks after giving birth to their first--and only child, Morgan Catherine.
Only 3 days after giving birth,she was diagnosed on Sept. 24th with cancer, and days later, we were told it was "Stage 4 Gastro-intestinal Cancer,of unknown origin."
Toni had been vegetarian, (no eggs, some select fish), nearly her entire just-turned-39-years-old-life.
A veternarian who saved countless animals'lives, and who loved her fulfilling work and had two doggies and a cat of her own, she enjoyed the support of a close family and many friends. She was a non-smoker and non-drinker, who was vibrant, athletic and outdoors-y, and enjoyed river-rafting, hiking, international travel, and dancing(salsa lessons were a favorite).
After some pain, and several attempts to get her cancer treated via stents(for her liver) and chemo, Toni lapsed into a coma, and on October 14th, 2010, Toni Harris Kwon left this world, and I personally believe God must have needed another angel. How else to understand such loss?
We have beautiful baby Morgan Catherine, and two sets of grandparents nearby, to offer love and support to both Daddy-Arthur and little Morgan.
She has an Aunt and Uncle(Hansoo's older brother) in Tennessee, and two cousins(their daughters) there,too.
And here in Atlanta, Morgan has an Aunt ("Theya Lisa") and Uncle Hansoo, who are fully committed to being the best for her, that we can possibly be.
Please keep us in your thoughts, meditations, and prayers.
May God Bless and Keep Your Own Families.